Why Your Partner Shuts Down During Arguments: Understanding Stonewalling
Stonewalling isn't passive aggression. It's physiological flooding. Learn what's actually happening when your partner shuts down and how to break the cycle.
Brian Nuckols
Licensed professional counselor in Pittsburgh, PA. I work with children, adolescents, adults, and couples across seven clinical areas: child and teen therapy (DBT-A), infidelity and betrayal trauma, eating disorders and ARFID, gambling addiction, couples therapy, neurodivergence, and depth psychology. The common thread is patterns that do not resolve with standard approaches, where evidence-based treatment needs to meet the deeper question of why the pattern exists.
If you're here because something is wrong, you're in the right place.
Areas of Practice
Child & Teen Therapy
DBT-A for adolescents struggling with intense emotions, self-harm, and crisis behaviors. Parent psychoeducation and family skills training.
Neurodivergence & Neuro Affinity
Masking, burnout, sensory processing, and rejection sensitivity. RO-DBT for overcontrol, process-based therapy for individual pattern mapping, and depth work that takes neurodivergent experience seriously.
Eating Disorders & ARFID
Specialized treatment for avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder. CBT-AR, sensory approaches, and family-based work.
Gambling Addiction
Evidence-based treatment that takes gambling seriously as both a neurological condition and a psychological one. Understanding what gambling provides is the beginning of recovery.
Couples Therapy
EFT and depth-oriented couples work for relationships where the same fight keeps happening or one partner is changing in ways the relationship can't accommodate.
Infidelity & Betrayal Trauma
Affair recovery that goes beyond stabilization. Gottman and EFT protocols for the crisis, plus the deeper work of understanding what the affair revealed.
Recent Writing
The Part of You That Woke Up: When an Affair Is About Aliveness, Not the Marriage
Some affairs are not about the marriage. They are about a part of the self that had gone quiet and found, in the contact with another person, the conditions for its return. A depth-psychological reading of the aliveness-seeking affair.
I Forget to Eat: Low-Interest ARFID and the Interoception Problem
Low-interest ARFID is not suppressed appetite. It is a measurable deficit in interoceptive signaling that produces a life of scheduled meals and borrowed hunger cues. What the research says, and why the autism overlap keeps appearing.
When It Is Both: ARFID-Spectrum Features Inside Restrictive Anorexia
A nineteen-year-old with a confirmed anorexia nervosa diagnosis also has a lifelong sensory profile that predates the weight pathology. When clinicians treat ARFID features as part of the AN, refeeding protocols fail in predictable ways. How to read the overlay.
How DBT Helps Teens Who Feel Everything Too Intensely
DBT's biosocial theory explains why some teens feel emotions more intensely. Learn how DBT teaches emotion regulation skills and how parents can create a validating environment.
Free Courses
Psychoeducation courses written for the people living with these conditions and their families. Evidence-based, clinician-written, no cost.
Common reasons people reach out
- "My partner had an affair and I don't know how to trust again"
- "My child won't eat and our pediatrician mentioned ARFID"
- "I've lost more money than I can admit to anyone"
- "We love each other but feel like roommates"
- "My teenager is cutting and I don't know what to do"
Free Self-Assessments
Clinician-designed tools to help you understand what you're dealing with. Free, private, no account required.
Assessment
View all assessments → GEAR Assessment
Screens for gambling-related harm across four domains: financial, emotional, relational, and behavioral. About 5 minutes.
Take the assessment → AssessmentPersonal Reflection Inventory
Maps your psychological patterns, including stress responses, interpersonal style, and how you relate to control. About 15 minutes.
Take the assessment → AssessmentCognitive Style Inventory
48-item assessment of eight cognitive processes based on Dario Nardi's research. Best-fit personality type and archetypal function stack. About 5 minutes.
Take the CSI → Assessment SuiteAutism & Neurodivergence
AQ-10 quick screen (5 min), CAT-Q masking assessment (10 min), and RAADS-R comprehensive (20 min). Designed for adults, especially women and late-identified individuals.
See the assessments → AssessmentC.A.R.E. Assessment
Measures four dimensions of relational health: Calm, Accepted, Resonant, and Energized. About 5 minutes.
Take the assessment →